Your Self-Talk Matters

The wScreen Shot 2016-06-23 at 5.19.22 PMay you see yourself is directly affected by how you talk to, and about yourself.

There’s an old axiom, often attributed to Dr. Joyce Brothers that states, “You can’t consistently act in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.”

In other words, how you think and speak about yourself directly reflects how you present your message and will in turn effect how others will perceive you as a speaker. When you speak well of yourself, or even when you repeat positive and accepting words in your mind, your physical nature actually changes. Positive body language and self-talk becomes an essential tool in helping you build credibility, expressing your emotions and connecting with your audience. It promotes healthy self-awareness and overall confidence which are both necessary in becoming successful on the stage.

Your self-talk isn’t just a motivational tool. The way you think and the words you choose will lead to changes in the way you behave and in the way you speak. How information is exchanged between others clearly affects how you walk away from the experience and it is no different when walking off that stage. Therefore, as a speaker, you’ll want to replace any self-talk that doesn’t serve your message and self-image with self-talk that does.

Marc Bowden, author of “Winning Body Language,” calls this your “Yes State.” When you focus on all the most positive words you can think of, several great things happen. Not only do you become more open and accepting towards yourself, but you also become more open and accepting toward your audience. Your posture changes, you become more animated with your gestures and you will feel better all around. You will realize that how you deliver your message is just as important, if not more so, than the content of the information itself.

If you don’t see yourself the way you’d like to see yourself, the objective is to make sure your self-talk is always positive and empowering! Banish the negative talk and you will be able to build a repertoire of positive coping statements to take their place.

So, what’s the lesson? Acknowledge the unconstructive voice in your head and challenge it. You’ll feel it, and so will your audience.

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